Email from Merjeo Reader:
I’m 18 and my boyfriend (who’s a bit older) took my virginity when we started dating 2 months ago. I asked him if that was a good thing, and he said yeah because no other guy has been there before. Why is that good? Is that like an ego boost or something?
Response from Merjeo:
Taking a girl’s virginity is definitely not an ego boost. On the contrary, this is something that should make the boy feel cheap, embarrassed and humiliated.
There’s only one exception to this. There’s nothing cheap and humiliating about taking a girls virginity if she’s the boy’s newlywed wife. But for this, you’d have to think back to the way things were in the 50’s and part of the 60’s. Most couples don’t do things this way anymore. And the ones who do are very rare.